Ten Things I Want Teenage Girls to Know

Alright, ladies. Some things have been on my mind and heart this week as I’ve thought of you. After having been in your shoes as a young lady myself and after having taught girls your age for six years, I have a few things I’d like to share to hopefully make your lives easier in the long run. I certainly don’t know everything, nor do I have it all together, but I have learned a few things. 🙂

  1. Girls, first and foremost, you are daughters of the King. Not just any king – the King of kings and Lord of lords. You are daughters of the Most High God, and you are royalty. “You are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, called to show forth the praises of Him Who has called you out of darkness and into His marvelous light.” (1 Peter 2:9) So, if you are royalty, you don’t need to seek the approval of any friend, guy, random celebrity on Twitter, or that person you text off and on. You don’t need to be a size 2 and have perfect nails and hair. You are chosen and have the love and favor of the KING over your life. The rest is rubbish compared to that.
  2. Daughters of the King need to dress the part. I’m tired of seeing young ladies wearing clothing that looks almost spray-painted on. I’m tired of seeing young ladies allowing the world to see their “assets.” I’m tired of seeing inappropriately sheer garments or backsides with writing on them, merely drawing attention to all the wrong things. Ladies, first of all, you are worth more than what you have or don’t have. Let your beauty of heart and your love for Christ be what draws people to you. Second of all, men are visual. If you want to honor the men around you who are often fighting daily to stay pure in heart and mind, don’t willfully put temptation right in front of them. I don’t care who says things like, “Well, he shouldn’t look!” No. You shouldn’t be a stumbling block for your brother. Yes, guys have a choice in what they choose to think about, but we are to build each other up, not be a source of temptation.
  3. Quit the drama. As Sweet Brown said, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” You can waste your time on petty things that, in the end, will amount to less than dust, or you can spend your hearts and lives building up the Kingdom of God. It’s your choice. If you are a follower of Christ and have an issue with someone, don’t text them or subtweet about them. Biblically, you are to go to the person (in person if possible) who has offended you and seek to right the wrong. The rest of the world does not need to know your issues between him/her, and texting usually complicates things further.
  4. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and other social media are neither your counselors nor your friends. Once you put something out there, it’s out there forever. You can delete it, but people will still have seen it, and those sites have archives that hold onto even the things you’ve deleted. If you need help, call a friend, family member, or someone else you trust. Putting things out there for the world might feel good for a while, but it won’t help solve the problem. Dig into God’s Word, too. Psalm 139 is a beautiful place to start.
  5. Guard your heart. Don’t give it to just anyone because it – and you – are treasures valued more than the most precious of rubies. Your full affection was meant for Christ first and foremost, and your heart (and body) were meant to be shared with the man God prepares for you to marry. Save yourself (and him) lots of heartache by guarding the precious treasure you’ve been given until after your vows.
  6. Your friends will fail you one day. Your family will be imperfect sometimes. Even your future husband will have his shortcomings. Your strength and trust must first be in God and in Him alone, or you won’t be able to withstand the rocky times in life. There’s a verse in Psalms that says, “Trust in the Lord at all times. Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us” (62:8). Colossians 2:10 says, “For we are complete in Him.” No man, website, hobby, food, self-destructive habit, or anything else will ever fully complete you. Only Jesus can, and He longs to do that for you.
  7. Don’t bash men. Not every guy is a jerk. And quit chasing the bad boys. I guarantee you that once the thrill and adrenaline of chasing that punk are gone, you’ll be left high and dry, but I can also guarantee you that there are plenty of really good men whose hearts are set on God. They already fight a hard enough battle to be leaders and strong and brave. They don’t need your bashing. Again, build them up.
  8. Read the story of Rebekah. Model your lives after women like her, Esther, Ruth, Mary, Lydia, Deborah, and Leah. God rewards a servant’s heart, and He sees yours. He has such immeasurable blessings waiting for you if you will trust Him and let Him lead. Be a servant first, even in the little things, and God, who sees the stuff you do when no one is watching, will pour out His blessings on you.
  9. Remember that you are loved. You have a Savior who staked His life – literally – on the hope that you would open your hearts to Him and receive His love. Once you allow that love in, your whole life will look different. Psalm 34:5 says, “They looked to Him and were radiant; their faces were never ashamed.” Let that sink deeply into your heart and soul.
  10. Be bold, ladies. Be daring. Be strong and gentle and open and free. You were created to radiate the joy and love and hope and freedom of the King. Get out there and make a difference. You have been chosen, and you don’t have to wait until after high school or until you’re married. Do it now. Do it boldly. You were made for this, daughter of the King.


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